T’s response to “You Never Know”

July 13, 2006


[My comment feature on the blog doesn’t seem to be able to allow people to post pictures. I might have posted this as a comment, which it is, but without the picture it wouldn’t mean much, so I reprint it here. I must admit, I was a bit nervous bringing out “You Never Know” as the wrong idea could easily be gotten. One of my UCLA colleagues called yesterday and assured me that it was a good piece. “Some may wonder why you wrote it in the first place, but then that is what your blog is about: you talking about things on your mind.” Right! Another called and said: “People like to think that children have no sexual thoughts or feelings at all and it’s just wrong.” The tricky part about even discussing this is that I, or anyone, runs the risk of being thought of as a pervert or child molester. I’ll make it clear: my post was a musing about unlikely sources of a human being’s first sexual “trigger” and in the article, I confessed mine. We assume triggers come from seeing sexually explicit material or pornography, but my wager is that the trigger can come from far more unlikely sources, like story books for children. Here is an email from a friend who is a gay man in his 60s. His partner of 30-some years doesn’t look anything like the dude on the bear in the book cover above.]

Hi Roger,

Enjoy reading your blog from time to time. The image of Androcles removing the thorn from the lion’s paw reminded me of this illustration in a book from my childhood. I think I was around seven or eight when I discovered it and found it very erotic. Once Disney got ahold of this story and images, the sex appeal was sucked right out of it, at least for me. Still, Huey, Dewey and Louie had their charms, too.

We would have enjoyed seeing you and Daniel at the Cody and Giaco portraits unveiling. We were in Las Vegas to see the Cirque de Soleil show, Love, about the Beatles, one of the greatest shows of all time. Someday before long it would be great to see you both.

Love, T

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